Perfectionism is a problem a lot of people struggle with. Having high standards is great but having standards that are too high can leave you feeling like nothing is ever good enough. Have you ever heard the old adage that perfectionism is the enemy of done? Sometimes productivity can really suffer when we’re too focused on getting something “just right” instead of getting it finished and moving on to the next thing. This obsession with perfection can actually hold you back from accomplishing great things. The first step is realizing that things are not always going to be perfect and that’s okay. Try creating more realistic goals and expectations for yourself and remember to be kind to yourself. Try challenging your inner critic and ask yourself if you would criticize someone else the way you criticize yourself. Being a perfectionist can be exhausting, and sometimes lead to stress, anxiety and other problems like procrastination. It can also keep you from celebrating your accomplishments because you’re so focused on what is wrong instead of what is right. Realize that you have the power to change your perfectionist habits through compassionate self-love and radical acceptance of the fact that everything is imperfect - and that’s perfectly okay.
Tara Branch, founder of the Insight Mediation Community of Washington, D.C, provides us with a beautiful self-compassion meditation.
Kristin Neff explains, in her TED Talk, "The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion."
Award-winning educator and Neuropsychiatrist, Dr. Dan Siegel, explains how Self-Compassion can help parents to keep the lid on their temper - and to reconnect with kids when they do lose it. The video below is one of many insights Dr. Siegel offers for parenting, childhood development, mindfulness, and more.